Adieu to No-Poo

This post is not scatological, I promise.

I've been doing No-Poo for about six months now (it was one of the first posts on this blog) and the first couple of months, I really enjoyed it.  However, about half way between then and now, I stopped having the same spiffy results.  I've carried on boldly in spite of it, figuring that I had caused it by shampooing after Independence Day and it just had to stabilize, but that never really happened.  My hair simply continued feeling grimy and heavy.

Therefore, today I gave up the baking soda and lemon water, and bought some Lavender-Ylang ylang shampoo and conditioner.  I lathered twice, and I think it may taken another application to get back to the texture I like, but I'm feeling much more normal, now.

So after my six month experiment, I'll say this: As a once-in-a-while thing, maybe it wouldn't be so bad.  If I get to a time in my life where I must live on a shoe string, I know I can get by with baking soda and lemons for at least part of my hygiene routine.  Actually with various scarves and bandanas, I can cover any bad hair days, too.  All hail the lazy!  But no-poo wasn't a horrible way to b for a while, and I feel confident that I gave it a good, fair try out.

Pondering a name shift, and hosting shift

If it's before September 14, you may (or may not) have noticed my poll.  So far, my results are one for No! and one for Why?

The only one I can address is Why?, so here it is.

I love doulary, I really do.  I'm passionate about birth, I believe every woman who wants one absolutely deserves access to a doula, I believe the presence of a doula can really augment and improve the birth experience, whatever that experience is.  I believe in the work... I just haven't been participating in it, not once since my training in July of 2008.  I have a doula heart, but not the street cred, if you will, and out of respect for the work and the professionalism of my fella doulas, I'd prefer not to refer to myself as one "professionally" (this is still technically my business' blog) until and unless I get my ducks in a row.  When it comes down to it, I'm a birth junkie massage therapist more than a doula.

I know I just included myself in the world of doulas while excluding myself just a moment ago.  I do still consider myself doula, but in a very casual way.  If someone came to me and said, "I really want you to be my doula", I wouldn't automatically turn them down.  I would be honored to be there for them, especially someone I love.  I know perfectly well that being certified or not doesn't mean a lot from a legal standpoint; no one's going to come and say "You can't call yourself a doula because you're not certified!"  However, I'm making my own distinction.  It's a little like saying, "I sometimes go hiking with my friends" rather than proclaiming "I'm a hiker!"  I love the work, but it's not my Work; massage is my Work and in time I hope to add labor massage to my repertoire, but that's not doulary.

Added to the above, the subjects I like to talk about here in my blog and on Twitter have a range that extends beyond pregnancy and labor into general health, herbalism, healing, spirituality/religion, child development, and life in general.  I try to look at life via the Wise Woman way: very holistic, working toward healing/wholeness/holiness with (shocking enough!) wisdom, and compassion, and looking at "problems" as opportunities to progress, rather than something that must be fought against and conquered.  I've been reading Susan Weed's Healing Wise, which is a fabulous book that helps outline what the Wise Woman way is, and serves to remind us that very often, we already know it.  I'm learning a lot, and gaining deeper understanding of a lot of things about this way, but it's not necessarily new; these are mostly concepts I've been introduced to before, whether by others or by my own pondering.  Given all of this, I'm feeling this reawakening urge to be a Wise Woman, to heal in ordinary ways, to nourish, teach, and follow the invisible traditions of my foremothers.

Healing doesn't always need to be an elaborate concoction of expensive mechanical protocols.  Sometimes those measures are called for, even in the Wise Woman way, and when they are, aren't we all glad we have them?  I wouldn't have some very dear people in my life without mechanical protocols, but they are not always indicated, and it is that path--seeking for healing/wholeness/holiness even as you accept the truth of what is--that I want to follow and present in my eclectic way.  It is that very eclectic nature that says to me that I need a broader term than only calling myself a doula (when I barely am one) or only a massage therapist (especially since that's such an awkward term; can you imagine a blog called "The Abundant Massage Therapist?"  Where's the subtle poetry in that?)

So there my long-winded reasons for considering the name change.  Huzzah.

In other news, I'm waiting to hear back from my current hosting company about canceling my service.  I've been with them since their start-up in 2006, and they're a very good company with a good service for providing massage therapists with user-friendly, decently attractive websites, especially if you don't want to spend gobs of money initially paying someone else to build your site.  However, I've found the amount of money I've spent in four years compared to the clients I've received as a result of the site to be, shall we say, grossly disproportionate.  I also want to integrate some features on my site that are impossible to achieve through their service.  Therefore, I'm hoping I will have authority over my domain by tonight, or Monday at the latest, and can begin building a new site.  You might even see this blog become the front page of abundancemassage.com in the interim!  We shall just have to see.

UPDATE: I have control of my domain name.  Woo hoo!

The Ring of Stewardship

I'm a bit of a geek, I admit, and I love the Lord of the Rings. The whole ring concept that the trilogy (quadrilogy, if you count The Hobbit) hinges on fascinates me, that the rings were not only symbols of power, but tools of power, as well. They represented authority and the ability to act upon the will of the bearer.

Picture from www.noblecollection.com

I think we all need our own Rings of Power in life, tokens to which we attribute a special meaning.  Most married people have one already, in their wedding ring.  Graduates often have a class ring.  There's promise rings, engagement rings, purity rings, CTR rings, WWJD rings, friendship rings, signet rings, claddagh rings... the list goes on.  There's just something about a ring that is a powerful part in the human experience.  (Or hobbit.)

So, I've produced for myself a Ring of Stewardship.  I've been thinking about stewardship for a while, and come up with this working definition: The responsibility to make wise decisions and the power act upon them on behalf of one with higher authority on the matter in question.  This has been of particular interest to me with regards to my personal health, as well as my finances, business practices, etc., but mostly health.  I feel that I should be and am accountable to a higher power for the way I use and treat my physical body, a fact that is very easy to forget when I'm bored-hungry in the evenings and go for the closest, most convenient piece of something edible in the kitchen.  This has not been a particularly nourishing way to live; I've gained quite a bit of weight lately and I'm definitely feeling it.  Instead of saving for a gym membership, I've been eating cake.  This is not the path I wish to travel, for yonder lies an early grave at the end of many uncomfortable, preventable complications.  I need a reminder to help keep me on track, an extra visual cue, something I can give a meaning to that will help me stay true to my desires.

Picture from www.theargonath.com

I don't wear rings in general because I can't wear them while I work, and I'm afraid I'll lose them if I remove them.  However, I'm not always working, so I one from my small collection, a favorite that I wear even less than the others. I had been doing my monthly fast anyway, so when I prepared to break it, I included an extra dedication in my prayer.  The ring became my Ring of Stewardship, my reminder, my permission to be great and true, my empowerment to make the right decisions without fear.  I plan to wear it as often as I can.

Fickle being that I am, I will likely change my mind on which ring embodies the symbol for me on a given day, and I say that's okay.  I give myself that permission.  The greatest importance I lay on the matter is that I wear something that makes me feel beautifully whole, the best quality I want to emulate as I exercise stewardship over my body. It may be as elaborate as my water ring or as simple as an Argentium band.  (Not that one, but I really like it.)

Here's to personal rites and ceremonies.  While you're go about your days as our world rolls toward a new season, consider making up a few rites and ceremonies of your own.  No one else has to know, and they don't need to mean anything to a single other soul in the world.  After all, it's not like you need to blog about it, too.  (But if you do, come back and leave me a link in the comments so I can see!)

Go Local: Milk & Honey

Just a quick post to show some love for a local business: Milk & Honey: Treasures and pleasures of the goddess.

This charming little shop has been in Sebastopol almost as long as I can recall. They have books, artwork, clothes, home decor, and jewelry fit for a goddess, Pagan or not. The latest addition to the shop is the Goddess Lounge, an arrangement of comfy couches, chairs, and tables for resting and/or taking in a refreshment from their cafe. They have all local and organic coffees, teas, and elixirs. I just had a hot (coconut) milk and honey drink with a shot of their Sanctuary elixir. Oh my gosh, so yummy. I will be ordering that again! They also have a small selection of nibbling things, and free wi-fi, which I'm taking advantage of while my home internet has completely crapped out on me this weekend.

It's a great little shop, just about 50 yards door-to-door from the salon, so if you've got time and inclination, I highly recommend popping in and saying hello to their friendly-yet-low key staff!

The Amethyst Network

I've been keeping mum on this subject until now (for all of about a week) but since the lady who kicked this idea off the ground announced it officially on her Facebook page, I feel it's appropriate to blog about it!

A couple weeks ago, an idea started to form in my friend Jenni's mind, an idea about doing good in the world on a matter close to her heart. She researched a little and found a blog post related to her idea. Someone out there was thinking about it, too. She contacted another blogger she'd been following for a few years, and myself (I had expressed interest in helping when she mentioned this idea originally) and the four of us became the founding members of The Amethyst Network: "a nationwide network of doulas working together to support parents during and after miscarriages."

The need for this work is so great that interest is exploding, and we're not even fully functional yet. We don't have a website beyond the Facebook Page, we don't have a bank account or PayPal to accept donations (hopefully we will by the end of the day), our logo is still in development, and our idea is constantly shifting and evolving as we decide what we are and what we'll do. We had people joining the Facebook page before we could set it to Private for the admins to build it. The idea of a doula for miscarriage is really resonating with a lot of people.

Our plan is to officially launch the website in October, on or near the 15th for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day and the International Wave of Light.  I'll keep you updated as we go along, and let you know what's new.

If you are a certified doula or a mother who has been through miscarriage, and are interested in joining our doula network, please contact us at theamethystnetwork at gmail dot com

Walk-in Wednesdays

Featuring

"10-minute Partials"

Abundance Massage now offers "partial" services every Wednesday afternoon on a walk-in basis. Starting September 1st, you can come in after 12 PM for a ten-minute session on feet, arms and hands, or head, neck, and shoulders. You can also choose to combine all three for 30 minutes of affordable spot-on relief.

Head, neck, & shoulders . . . . . . . . . . . . $15

Hands and forearms  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $15

Feet. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $15

Any two . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $30

Any three. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $45

Add lavender or peppermint cream. . . . . $ 3

 Payment by cash or local check only.

Out of Town: Funeral

I'm closed this weekend while I go to Utah to attend a funeral. I'll be back in business on Monday.